Baby Memorials

When I was about age 4 or 5, I went to my mother one day and said "Mom where is my twin?" I must have startled her because she was rather sharp when she told me I did not have one. But I knew I did, just where was she?

I come from a large family & our mother was born to be a mother. Not only did she have 11 children, she had 3 miscarriages. She had another unique baby lost: my twin. She told me that when I was conceived, the first trimester, I was like our oldest brothers, who were identical twins. She got big fast & she said her body was just like the twins. Then, the second trimester, the growing stopped, I became very quiet, she gained no more size or weight. The final trimester I was like a single baby.

As time went on I continued to wonder about my twin. What happened to her? How was she? About 6 or so year ago, one of my sisters said to me "did you know when you were born, Mom delivered another placenta?" I knew it! I had known all along. This simply confirmed what I had known all along; the only thing I did not know what she was a fraternal, not identical, twin.

Like all children, she needed a name. I have named her Melissa Ann. Melissa is after a grade school friend who was the opposite of me and I wanted my twin sister to have this fearlessness. I called her Lisa most of the time. I created this collage for her called "Letting Go of Lisa" so that she could explore the world on her own. 

I am connected to her even though she was not born. And to remember her, I have created a Baby Stone for her. It is a small stone I have painted with her name.  If you would like one for your baby, please email me and I will make one, and put it with Lisa's, creating a memorial garden for these babies. At this time, you can contact me at BlackMadonnaSanctuary@gmail.com for more information.